The news has been filled with the stories of same-sex marriage. It is being accepted by several states. It is being
blocked by the Defense of Marriage Act. The Defense of Marriage Act has been blocked. The United States
Supreme Court has allowed for the extension of benefits on the federal level. The United States military
recognizes same-sex marriage. The news has created a stir among people. Some see it as the new civil rights
cause, and others see it as a sign of impending doom. What is it all about? What is the big deal?
For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who
hold the truth in unrighteousness; Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God
hath shewed it unto them. For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen,
being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without
excuse: Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but
became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing themselves to be wise,
they became fools, And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible
man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. Wherefore God also gave them up to
uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: Who
changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is
blessed for ever. Amen. For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did
change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use
of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and
receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to
retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not
convenient; Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness;
full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud,
boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without
natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such
things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them. (Romans 1:18-32
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators,
nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor
covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were
some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus,
and by the Spirit of our God. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11 KJV)
The Bible very clearly states that homosexuality is wrong. Whether it is woman and woman, or man and man,
the act is sin. The word “effeminate” in 1 Corinthians 6 refers to a calamite (a man who takes a boy lover), thus
However, unfortunately what many people do is stop after verse 9 in 1 Corinthians 6.
All they see is the condemnation of those involved in sexual sins. They recognize that “God made Adam and
Eve, not Adam and Steve.” Or, the more updated version in the illustration to the side.
But, verse 10 indicates that there are other sins that fall into this same condemnation:
Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. (1
Corinthians 6:10 KJV)
Sin is sin.
Verse 11 is the true message of this passage.
And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the
Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. (1 Corinthians 6:11 KJV)
Some of those at Corinth had engaged in the behaviors described. They had been drunkards, thieves,
extortioners, calamites, homosexuals – but they were not these things anymore. Now they were washed from
their sins. Now they were sanctified, or made holy, by the Spirit of God. Now they were justified by the authority
of the Lord Jesus.
It is not what you were, it is what you are. The power of the gospel, the power of the blood of Jesus, can change
your relationship with God and empower you to live a life of holiness.
When I worked at a newspaper in Central Ohio I shared a desk with a homosexual. One day when he had
problems with the health insurance, I helped him to figure out how to correct the problem. One of the men I
worked for after the homosexual left, said, “I thought you hated homosexuals! Why did you help him?”
“I never said I hate homosexuals. I hate homosexuality. I hate the sin, but love the sinner. Do I mistreat you?” I
“No,” he answered in puzzlement.
“Do you still live with your girlfriend?”
“I don’t have anything more against him, than I do against you. Both of you are doing that which is against God’
s will. Both of you are living in sin.”
He walked away with his chin on his shoetops.
By the way, when we went to seminars, the homosexual would seek me out to sit with me. He said, “There is no
doubt that you disapprove of my lifestyle, but you treat me better than anyone else does. They say they don’t
mind my lifestyle and treat me like I have the plague. You disapprove and treat me like you do everyone else.”
I wrote the following when I was working there. It speaks of those who live together without marriage, in
particular, but its principle also applies to those who engage in homosexual behavior whether it is leisurely,
living together, a civil union, or “marriage.”
"Congratulations!" was the order of the day. An individual had moved in with her lover. No marriage, either
common law or otherwise. No pretext at being husband and wife. Yet, "Congratulations!" was the word coming
from everyone's mouth, except mine.
Perhaps it is considered old-fashioned; perhaps it is considered prudish; it may even seem strange; but, it is not
right to live together without the benefit of marriage. It is not a reason to congratulate someone: it is a reason to
be ashamed of their actions, and disapprove of their living arrangements. To live together without the benefit of
marriage is wrong.
Living together without the benefit of marriage is bad for society. The foundation of society is the family. Living
together is no family. There is no commitment. There is no solidarity of foundation for society.
What of the children? You respond that there is contraception in our day and age. Look at the birth rate out of
marriage. Up to one out of every three births is outside of wedlock. Do you know anyone who has become
pregnant while utilizing birth control? I know of those who have become pregnant utilizing almost every form of
birth control known to man, including vasectomies that did not take. The children born of such a union begin
life with one, and possibly two strikes, against them. The chances of them growing up without either a mother or
a father are more than nine times the normal.
Some have stated that if couples lived together before they were married they could see if they are compatible,
and the divorce rate will go down. However, what makes marriages last? Is it sexual compatibility? A man and a
woman are sexually compatible. The determining factor in marriages lasting is a moral conviction of the
lifetime commitment of marriage. Without that moral conviction, there will always be found an excuse
(although they may call it a reason) to end the marriage. Those who live together before marriage lack the
morals that will make a marriage last. That is why the statistics show that those who live together before they are
married have a much higher rate of divorce.
Also, why would those who live together ever get married? "Why buy the cow, if you already get the milk free?"
What compunction is there for the unmarried couple who cohabitate to become married? If marriage is seen as
nothing more than a piece of paper, if marriage is so denograded that they would reduce it to playing house, if
there is no recognition of the immorality of fornication, why would they get married? Many places there is no
social stigma associated with living together. The laws of the land allow for palimony and inheritance claims by
"live-ins." If there is no moral reason, if there is no social reason, if there is no financial reason, if there is no
legal reason, why would they ever get married?
Perhaps the saddest report on living together without the benefit of marriage is the acceptance of the
arrangement by many religionists. Preachers are heard to say, "If they plan on getting married there is nothing
wrong with it;" "We need to change with the times;" "It may not be the best situation, but that is modern society."
Those individuals who should be at the forefront of the fight against immorality have surrendered to the enemy.
It is not uncommon to see the president of the choir, a deacon or a deaconess, a Sunday school teacher, or
other individual in some churches living together with someone without the benefit of marriage. Whatever
happened to sin?
Regardless of the situation of modern society, regardless of the position of modern religionists, sin is still sin.
"Marriage is honorable in all, and the marriage bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will
judge." (Hebrews 13:4).
Fornication and adultery are still listed among the works of the flesh, which "they which do such things shall
not inherit the kingdom of God" (Galatians 5:18-21; 1 Corinthians 6:9 to 11).
The correct response to those living together without the benefit of marriage (both a legal and a scriptural
marriage) is found in The First Epistle of Paul to the Corinthians, chapter 5, as the apostle addresses the
problem of one living with someone without benefit of marriage at Corinth in the first century.
"It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and such sexual immorality as is not
even named among the Gentiles - that a man has his father's wife! And you are puffed up, and have not
rather mourned, that he who has done this deed might be taken away from among you. For I indeed, as
absent in body but present in spirit, have already judged, as though I were present, concerning him who
has so done this deed. In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when you are gathered together, along with my
spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of the flesh,
that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus. Your glorying is not good. Do you not know that a
little leaven leavens the whole lump? Therefore purge out the old leaven, that you may be a new lump,
since you truly are unleavened. For indeed Christ, our Passover, was sacrificed for us. Therefore let us
keep the feast not with old leaven, nor with the leaven of malice and wickedness, but with the unleavened
bread of sincerity and truth.
I wrote to you in my epistle not to keep company with sexually immoral people. Yet I certainly did not mean
with the sexually immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or idolaters, since then
you would need to go out of the world. But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone
named a brother, who is a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an
extortioner - not even to eat with such a person. For what have I to do with judging them also who are
outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? But hose who are outside God judges. Therefore, 'put
away from yourselves that wicked person'." (1 Corinthians 5:1 thru 13).
The brother, or believer, who is living with someone without benefit of marriage should be withdrawn from.
There should be no company kept with that individual, not even as much as eating with them. This is for the
purpose of shaming them into correcting their behavior, and repenting. It is a censure of their behavior so that
others do not follow their bad example, as well as an attempt to reclaim the sinner for righteousness. They
should know better than to behave in such a fashion. They should know that fornication and adultery are sin.
They should know that they have a responsibility to themselves, to the church, to Christ, and to God to eschew
such behavior. There is no excuse for them acting in such a manner; therefore, they are fit subjects of
punishment. It is not a matter of ignorance with them; it is a matter of disobedience.
However, the same is not true of those in the world. Those who have not heard the message of salvation in Jesus
Christ, those who have not become believers in the Son of God, those who have not obeyed from the heart the
gospel, are ignorant (although possibly willfully ignorant). They do not know that their actions are wrong. They
do not know fornication and adultery are sin. They have no relation to the church, to Christ and to God. They
are without hope. They are lost. They need to be taught. They need to be instructed. They need to hear the
message of salvation in Jesus Christ. Therefore, the same restrictions are not placed upon having company with
unbelievers, or in eating with them. Where there is no knowledge of wrong, there will be no shame. Withdrawing
from the infidel would serve no purpose. However, this is a far cry from condoning and approving of their
behavior. The instruction and teach¬ing done will include reproof and rebuke for sin. That may cause the
infidel to withdraw from the saint. In fact, it commonly does.
The reaction of the Christian to those who live in sin differs depending upon who it is: whether they are a brother
in Christ, or whether they are an infidel. However, the reaction to the sin remains the same: rejection and a call
"Congratulations!" are in order when one does what is right; not when someone does something wrong.
"Congratulations!" are in order when someone quits living in sin, when they cease to live together without the
benefit of marriage, not when they begin to do so. That is true of either the saint or the sinner, the believer or
the unbeliever, the Christian or the infidel.
"Blessed is he who condemns not himself in that which he approves" (Romans 14: 14).
The following chart was published by The Washington Times. It shows the detriment to society of being raised
by two mothers, or a homosexual couple. There is not a single category on this chart where being raised by a
homosexual couple does not come off being the worse scenario. The area which seems to be least affected is
the last – “in a same-sex romantic relationship” – but the child is still almost twice as likely to be in a
True, each and every child has a free-will. The environment in which they are raised does not necessarily
dictate how they will turn out. The gospel has the power to change the life of the believer! However,
environment is a strong influence. Society will influence the church and the Christian if we are not careful.
Same-sex marriage has opened “the slippery slope.” Based upon the success of same-sex marriage groups have
petitioned the government to recognize pedophilia and polygamy. After all, “if it is wrong to prohibit love…” and
“what is done in the bedroom is nobody’s business…” what is wrong with these? A woman has even sued to be
able to marry her horse!